Episode 131: Survival of the Most Loving

We were all designed for loving the people around us.

In this week’s episode, Chief Victory Officer, Eric Guy, is joined once again by former hospice nurse, Marissa Host. They discuss why it’s important to understand what your survival mechanisms are and why connection to others is crucial to living a happy life.

In a world fraught with challenges and uncertainties, the pursuit of harmony and compassion often takes a backseat to the more immediate and intense emotions of bitterness and anger. However, delving into the profound aspects of human nature, it becomes evident that our intrinsic design leans towards love and cooperation. The health benefits of nurturing love and empathy for those around us, rather than harboring bitterness or anger, are numerous and far-reaching. This essay aims to explore the remarkable advantages that arise from adopting an attitude of affection and understanding.

Human beings are inherently wired to thrive through loving and cooperation. Our evolutionary history demonstrates that our success as a species hinges upon our ability to form connections and work together. This is further affirmed when considering the remarkable capacity of humans to control their perceptions and reactions. Unlike other creatures that may be driven primarily by instinct, we possess the unique gift of cognitive control. We have the power to manage the workings of our minds, enabling us to regulate our emotions and responses. Thus, by choosing to embrace a mindset of loving rather than anger, we harness the potential to alter our reactions in a manner that aligns with our higher ideals.

Furthermore, our perception plays a pivotal role in reshaping our mindset. A shift from a “survival of the fittest” mentality to a “survival of the most loving” mentality is not only feasible but also transformational. When we choose to perceive the world through a lens of empathy and compassion, we begin to cultivate an environment where love thrives and bitterness withers away. This shift is not confined to our own thoughts and actions; it has the capacity to ripple through our relationships and interactions, influencing others to adopt a similar outlook.

In the early stages of life, our capacity for emotional understanding and expression is greatly influenced by our environment, particularly our parents or primary caregivers. The first six years of a child’s life are crucial, as during this period, they absorb the emotional responses of their caregivers like a sponge. This phenomenon underscores the significance of embracing love and managing our reactions. By demonstrating kindness, loving, and forgiveness in our interactions, we are providing a template for the younger generation to emulate. The legacy of nurturing love thus extends beyond our own lives, shaping the emotional landscape of generations to come.

The value of fostering open relationships cannot be underestimated. It is within these connections that the hormone oxytocin, often referred to as “the cuddle chemical,” comes into play. Oxytocin, released when we experience physical touch, trust, and social bonding, is a potent force that facilitates empathy and emotional closeness. By maintaining openness and authenticity in our relationships, we promote the release of oxytocin, creating a cycle of emotional reciprocity that nourishes our well-being.

Beyond the confines of interpersonal dynamics, our surroundings also exert a profound influence on our emotional and physical health. Nature, in its innate tranquility, offers an exquisite respite from the stresses of modern life. Spending time amidst natural beauty triggers the release of an array of “feel-good” hormones, including endorphins and serotonin. Furthermore, research suggests that the benefits of nature immersion extend to our immune system, with exposure to natural environments bolstering our body’s defense mechanisms. Thus, by embracing nature and infusing our lives with its serenity, we foster a holistic sense of well-being that complements our pursuit of loving and emotional harmony.

The significance of human connection cannot be overstated. Our very biology is designed for interaction and social bonding. The intricate web of relationships, from family and friends to broader community ties, forms a foundational element of our existence. By isolating ourselves or nurturing feelings of bitterness, we deny our bodies and minds the very conditions they have evolved to thrive within. The health benefits of loving and understanding are deeply intertwined with our core nature as social beings.

In conclusion, the health benefits of embracing love and empathy towards those around us are manifold and extend to both our emotional and physical well-being. As humans, our intrinsic design is rooted in cooperation and connection, rather than violence. Our ability to manage our perceptions and reactions empowers us to choose an outlook of love over anger. By fostering a culture of empathy and emotional openness, we release oxytocin, a hormone that deepens our emotional bonds. Nature, too, holds therapeutic power, enhancing our mental and physical resilience. Ultimately, living in harmony with others aligns with our evolutionary blueprint and enhances our holistic health. To truly flourish, we must heed the call to embrace love, replacing bitterness and anger with empathy and compassion.

Takeaways:
– We are not designed to be violent, but rather we’re designed to love and cooperate.
– We have the ability to control the perceptions of our mind and therefore control ourselves and how we react.
– We need to access and change our conscious mind.
– Our perception can reverse a “survival of the fittest” mentality into a “survival of the most loving” mentality.
– Until the age of 6, children are downloading the way their parents are reacting and this will affect how they react to situations in their own life.
– Having an openness in our relationships creates oxytocin (“the cuddle chemical”). This hormone creates empathy between people.
– Connecting with nature draws out all of the feel-good hormones.
– We need to live connected with people, or we’re cutting out something that our bodies are designed to do.

Quotes:
– “We are meant to be these radiating beings of love.”
– “Not holding someone accountable is creating fear.”
– “We all want to know that we’re running in the right direction.”
– “Is love at the foundation of your story?”
– “What you think about, you bring about.”

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